My husband joined me. We both stopped arguing for the rest of the night, choosing instead to focus on comforting our son. We knew he was too young to understand any of the things we were yelling at each other about, but it was still clear that we were affecting him with our tone, our raised voices, and our angry faces. Our son soon forgave us and went back to playing with his favorite toy, but the incident left both of us wondering whether our argument — and any others we might have — could affect him in the long term.
There have been several studies that show babies can sense when their mothers are stressed. Babies exposed to frequent stress in utero were found to be born with higher cortisol levels at birth than those born to less stressed mothers. A study suggested that by 6 months old, babies will also exhibit stress reactions to scowling or angry facial expressions. And babies exposed to conflict can have increased heart rates, which also initiates a stress hormone response. Babies are born innately seeking safety and building trust that their needs will be met, she continues.
Over time, elevated stress in babies can cause separation anxiety , crankiness, and problems with sleep. But there are even more noticeable effects of continued conflict in their presence.
Toddlers might throw frequent tantrums, have trouble making friends, or, says Crawford, struggle to express complex feelings or ideas in a calm way.
Later, children might display difficulties with concentration, have anxiety, or develop behavioral problems. For example, one study of kindergartners found that kids whose parents fought harshly or frequently were more likely to have depression, anxiety, and behavioral issues by the time they were in seventh grade. This causes them to face more social challenges later in life. After the tenth time it happens you start to pull away, no longer having a dance partner you can trust.
By the time kids become toddlers—entering that period at 9 to 12 months when they begin to toddle—they are experts at reading your non-verbal communication.
Their left-brain capabilities—like language, analysis, delayed gratification—are years away from reliable mastery, but their right-brain abilities—like reading gestures, tone of voice, and facial expressions to pick up on how their parents are feeling—are becoming pitch perfect. When a parent yells, children pick up on that anger, frustration, or negativity loud and clear. Young children are egocentric. Yelling parents can influence how kids begin to see themselves. It also lays the groundwork for a pretty rocky relationship.
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So here's the takeaway: We need to be aware of how we act in front of our babies. As Repacholi puts it, "Our studies show that babies are very tuned into other people's anger. For parents, it's important to be mindful of how powerful that emotion is for babies. Follow her on Twitter Spitupnsuburbs , where she chronicles her love of exercising and drinking coffee, but never simultaneously.
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